I never imagined my husband and I would have trouble conceiving. After 2 years of trying, its time to face that reality. It becomes quite difficult when you see everyone around you getting pregnant, and you don’t. My sister recently told me they were expecting… I hugged her, cried a little with her and told her “congratulations” as my heart was aching inside. I left early that day and sobbed the whole way home. Please don’t get me wrong… I’m thrilled she’s going to be a mom, I am just sad I’m not there yet! I mentioned this to my sister later on, and she told me they had been waiting to tell people in hopes we would become pregnant as well. Her love for me… almost brought me to tears. This helped me learn that it was okay for me to be happy for her, but more importantly it was okay for me to be upset.
It was okay for me to be upset!
This is something you need to be allowed to grieve over. My sister understood. Through this all God taught me to rejoice even when it doesn’t go my way.
“Rejoice in the Lord always: and again I say rejoice” Philippians 4:4
I can be happy (even excited) for people around me that are blessed enough to become pregnant. Why, you might ask?
I choose to be thankful for life’s blessings, and I choose to not be bitter over the things I don’t have! While this isn’t easy and I often fail to do so… I can still rejoice.
” Not that I speak in respect of want: for I have learned, in whatsoever state I am, therewith to be content” Philippians 4:11
With Love, The Hopeful Wife
Tonight I’m gonna be blogging a bit differently… I just kinda needed to journal a bit and I figured ..meh why not share my thoughts with you all. If you’ve read my ABOUT, you’ll all know I am a mama of one busy toddler so far and guess what…..we have baby #2 on its way! Yay!!….. Right?
Honestly, it’s been a little terrifying! I am sooo busy, it’s almost unreal. I mean if I’m not doing this, then I’m doing that. It seems like a never ending cycle of laundry, cleaning, dishes, chasing toddler, cooking etc. And I am such a restless soul… Not finding fulfillment in anything. So I find more to do. You see I’m a bit of a perfectionist so I’m constantly trying to have a cleaner more organized house or a prettier, more meaningful journal entry or a better, more fullfilling devotional. Anyone else feeling me? It’s driving me crazy! So I get busier and busier. I can hardly keep up. So yeah…2 little ones seems almost impossible to me right now. But I know things will be ok. Trust is key. Trust in the Lord is master key. Everything will work out if I make Him center of my crazy world.
I’m just not sure how to slow down though…… I need to find my “thing”. So tell me fellow busy mamas, who’ve got it all figured out 😉 (lol) are you willing to give up your secret, your “thing” to slowing down in such a busy world??
If you are, comment away!
Please! ❤️ I’m sure many of us would love to hear your advice….
Hey I just might even have to pick some of the best ones and feature them in my next blog post!
“Don’t you want a child?” Ouch. That hurts. This is what I was asked when after 1 1/2 years of marriage, we didn’t have any children. I couldn’t help thinking, “If only you knew how much I wanted a baby, how much I wanted a little bundle of joy and how much my husband wanted to be a daddy, you wouldn’t ask that question!” but instead I replied ” We are waiting for God to give us a child.” Often when I say that, I get a look of pity. I don’t want that. I’m not asking for pity. I’m simply stating the truth. We are waiting for God’s will and His great plan for us. I’ve often prayed for more patience and I can honestly say God is answering my prayers and teaching me to be patient.
I think in situations like mine people often don’t know what to say. and you know what? THAT’S OK! Like I said, I’m not asking for pity, I’m asking for understanding. I’m asking that comments like:
- “Your still young”
- “You have plenty of time”
- “Just relax and it will happen”
be kept to yourself. And the reason I say that? I would rather hear you say ” I’ll pray for you.” Prayer accomplishes things empty words don’t. I’m writing this for everyone out there struggling with infertility or knows someone who is. Bottom line is YOU ARE NOT ALONE! God hasn’t left you. He is always there.
Deuteronomy 31:6 KJV
“Be strong and of good courage, fear not, nor be afraid of them: for the LORD thy God, He it is that doth go with thee; He will not fail thee, nor forsake thee.”
The Hopeful Wife
Hey! I just wanted to introduce you all to a very dear friend of mine whom I’ve known for a few years now. Recently we have gotten to know each other pretty well and she opened up to a bit about the struggles in her journey with infertility. I was able to see and understand her situation and others like her in a completely different light. I also realized she has quite the way with her words, so I pestered her into writing a section for my blog. I feel that this will be so helpful to many of us, who do not know the struggles of infertility, to better understand and know how to support our loved ones who do struggle through this. Also I believe she has such a wonderful faith in our Lord, and although she struggles at times to understand why this is God’s plan, I think she could be a great encouragement to others in the same situation. So without further ado I introduce to you “THE HOPEFUL WIFE!” Hopefully you will enjoy her posts and I ask that you keep her in your prayers.
Like the Mennonite Wife, I have chosen to keep my identity a secret. I am a daughter of Christ and a young wife. I’ve always enjoyed writing and feel God is using me to share my journey and hopefully encourage others out there, who also are mothers in their hearts. ♥
The Hopeful Wife